Some Memorable Songs

On a particular day, on my way back from work, I happened to hear two songs being played over the radio. Two songs which I think are memorable and unforgettable; that struck a chord in me.

I'm putting the lyrics of the songs here, just to share ...

Alasanmu by Ezad

Ikhlasnya hati sering kali disalah erti
Tulusnya budi tidak pernah engkau hargai
Berlalu pergi dengan kelukaan ini
Ku mengalah ku bersabar

Bertentang mata seolah-olah tiada apa
Berpaling muka ada saja yang tidak kena
Mencari sebab serta alasan yang kukuh
Supaya tercapai hajatmu

Manis dibibir memutar kata
Malah kau tuduh akulah segala penyebabnya
Siapa terlena pastinya terpukau
Pujukmu rayumu suaramu
Yang menagih simpati dan harapan

Engkau pastinya tersenyum
Dengan pengunduran diriku
Tetapi bagi ku pula
Suatu ketenangan

Andainya kita terus bersama
Belum tentu kita bahagia
Selagi tidak kau ubah
cara hidupmu

Ada rahmatnya bila tidak lagi bersama
Terasa jauh diriku ini dengan dosa
Ku tinggalkanmu walau tanpa kerelaan
Yang nyata kau tidak berubah

***

Ku Mahu by Siti Nurhaliza

Sesaat ku terkesima
Pada indah personamu
Sekilas kau senyum padaku
Melarutkanmu dalam kasihku

Sesaat ku terpesona
Pada warna ceriamu
Sayangnya telah ku hidu
Semua paparanmu palsu

Indah impian cintaku
Namun realiti tak seharum
Yang ku impikan kerna
Cintamu tak sejati

Ku mahu kesetiaan dan kejujuran
Kasih sayang yang tiada bersempadan
Pengorbanan cinta yang tulus dan lahir dari keikhlasan

Namun kau hanya mampu memberi janji palsu
Dan kita pun terdorong hawa nafsu
Semua yang kau beri tak benar dan tak kan menjadi erti

Selamanya takkan ku lupa
Kau ajar ku seksa
Kau pandai berkata-kata
Hingga aku derita

Selamanya ku berjaga-jaga
Tak sanggup ku kenang
Cukuplah sekali terluka
Kan ku ingat sentiasa

Aku bukanlah boneka mu
Ku tak rela dipermainkan
Lebih baik sendiri
Dari terseksa di tangan mu.

The bottom line is, don't get in touch just to tell more lies; or to make a fool out of me again. And don't be in touch because you want to have some fun, for I'm not at all interested.

Of Men, Women & Relationships

Because of a friend, I'm now reading the famous bestseller 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' by John Gray. I'm actually exploring and investigating how different our perspectives, views and ways of thinking are.  

 

On the cover of the one I bought, it was claimed that this book had 15 million copies sold worldwide. It must have been famous.

 

Though another friend had told that the knowledge in this book is not really relevant due to the difference in my culture and background with those of the author's, I still think that the book should be read. I have always believed that there is no piece of knowledge that is 100% useful nor 100% useless. If I can't apply all, at least an amount of it, be it a little or a considerable percentage, can still be used. What more when the book is about how people think and behave, for your way of thinking determines how you would behave.

 

 

 

From the book, I've discovered that I do think and act like a man at times. I sometimes do what men do, and think like they do. To be specific, the book mentions that when women pour their hearts and their problems out to men, the latter would usually provide solutions for the said problems. According to the book, that's not what women need. All they want is for men to listen and to offer emphaty. Wow, what a revelation. 

 

It shocked me to realise that at times, when I pour my heart and problems out to men, what I need is a solution! When I do this with my female friends, I often end up irritated or fed-up for their inabilities to provide me the solution I need. The book also said that men sometimes need some space, that they would pull away from a relationship just to have "the space". I realised I did that too. What's worse, I need that "space" too!

 

So, what's this? The book said that in a relationship, men often expect women to think like men while women expect men to think like women. So, what's wrong with me? I'm capable to think like men, perhaps due to my background of being raised up with 4 male siblings, that I somehow "had been inculcated" with their way of thinking? Or I am capable to think like men because naturally all of us are capable to think like the other sex? Or is it because we, men and women, do think alike?

 

 

 

 

For now, it feels like I'm jumping between Mars and Venus. I do think like a female too most of the times - being emotional, being sensitive and all. Yet, after a considerable time and amount of wallowing in self-pity, my rationality will take over and I guess this is when I start thinking like a man. How crazy does that sound?

 

So, can this thinking between Mars and Venus help me in a relationship? In surviving one? In understanding a man? Perhaps in understanding his actions. But I could not be the understanding one all the time. He has to understand me too sometimes.

 

 

 

I believe men and women are not created equal. Men are created with a degree of advantage over women, with some extra privileges/strength for they are required to be the protecters and maintainers of the women. Yet, women are not second-class to men. Women are suppossed to be treated with love, kindness, tenderness and compassion. Are men strong enough to do that?

 

I also believe a relationship is not a competition between a man and a woman but more of a connection which enhances both individuals. It is where each is respected and accepted  for who he/she is; and thus each should never control or be controlled. Although any differences should be celebrated, a compromise should be attained as to maintain a balanced, harmonious relationship. For the main goal of any relationship should be nothing less than happiness.

 

 

Of Office Flirts & Scandals

Do you flirt at the office? Do your friends? Do others, your colleagues?



Sorry, not really accusing you or anyone. Not really saying or making a statement that people flirt at your office or workplace. Yet, it happens.

Reader's Digest, in its September 2011 issue, listed 10 places where it's dumb to flirt. Guess what, the workplace is at no 10.

Well, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that since the workplace is at no 10, then it's okay to flirt at the workplace since it's not no1 or no 2. Hello, which earth are you on?

To have the workplace listed is already a signal that the office is not the place for you to have some "fun". And if it's dumb to flirt at the office, I would conclude that those who flirt at the office are dumb!

 

It has been shocking to me to find out that some people have no shame to get involved in office flirts and scandals. Of what they say and do, I think they have no respect for themselves nor a drop of dignity in themselves. To think, see, hear or observe what they are willing to do - to bring themselves down to among the lowest rung in the moral ladder - I just couldn't fathom it. How could one disgrace oneself to that extent? How could one do such evil, such unkindness to one's very own self?

The office is the place for me to work, to earn a living. And I'm not into flirts, scandals or even affairs; be it at the office or anywhere else. Not really trying to brag or to declare that I'm the good, pure, untainted soul. Just to make known of some of my life principles.

 

SRK (that's Shah Rukh Khan, if you're wondering) is one of the few celebrities who is also against scandals and affairs.



SRK

I understand that the world is not perfect. Our world is also not perfect. And we are like an injured bird - hurt, helpless, trying to find a shelter or a loving heart to nurse us back to perfection, to make us whole again. And then, there are temptations around. In our quest for compassion, we often fall for temptations.


I think we have to be wise, and to think of others. People in a scandal or affair are often being selfish and self-centred, only thinking of their own unhappiness, heartaches or imperfection. The scandal or affair is their way to make themselves happy, content, satisfied or even complete. Do they ever think that they're harming others -the people who love them, and the people whom they love? Everybody around them is affected by the scandal or the affair, that's a fact.

 

I would end by saying, avoid affairs and scandals. It's dumb anyway.